There are so many different types of people out there, and every relationship you form is unique. Whether it be a neighbor, a colleague, a college mate, or a life partner, some people lift us, while others are a giant ball and chain to our feet. You need to know when it’s time to choose yourself and take a social detox from the relationships that are weighing you down.
We all know that the best people in our lives are those who can tell a good joke, are good pillars of support, and tell you the truth, even when it’s hard to hear. But, if certain individuals constantly stress you out, is your relationship with them worth pursuing and preserving?
Sometimes, deleting numbers and letting those relationships go can make room for healthier, happier connections. Here’s a rundown of the types of people that may not be worth your time and affection.
1. Overly Negative People
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Negativity can be contagious. Those who constantly see the glass as half-empty can bring down your mood and outlook on life. Instead of seeing challenges as opportunities, they focus on the downside, and before you know it, so do you.
Instead, focus on the positive people in your life. Just as negativity is contagious, that friend with the infectious laugh also wields power. Their vibes can turbocharge your positivity and make conquering life’s hurdles a breeze!
2. Overly Envious People
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Most of us have met someone who has a green-eyed monster sitting on their back. If a friend or family member is always jealous of your achievements, they may not genuinely celebrate your successes. Instead, they might make disparaging comments about your victories, making you second-guess your abilities and happiness.
Positive relationships should be supportive. Loved ones who are genuinely happy for you contribute to a healthier, more uplifting environment. Anyone in your life who doesn’t fit that bill may need to be removed from the regular roster of people you spend your time with.
3. People Who Can’t Control Their Anger
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Constant anger and outbursts can create a toxic atmosphere. Someone who is always blowing their lid, even over the minutest of issues, can cause needless tension and stress. Be very wary of these people as they may become violent.
Being in the company of composed and serene people promotes a quiet atmosphere that facilitates fruitful discussions and problem-solving. You should be able to feel safe around your loved ones. If you don’t, it’s time to reflect on why that person is in your life.
4. Perpetual Liars
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Imagine if Pinocchio’s magic were applied to everyone. Then you’d know liars by their long noses. Devoid of trust, any relationship will fall apart at the first sign of hardship. If honesty is difficult to come by in a relationship, it’s time to think long and hard about what is happening.
Repetitive lying breeds distrust, leading to constant suspicion and tension. Honest people who tell the truth even when it’s difficult are invaluable. Hold those people close, and get rid of the rest.
5. People Who Are a Bad Influence on You
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It’s crucial to have a squad that hypes you up! However, if they’re pushing you towards bad choices and trouble, they might not be people you want to keep in your life permanently. It’s important that you stand firm in your values and set healthy boundaries. People who want to push you away from those should be treated with suspicion.
If you find a tribe that cheers you on to good behavior and success, keep them close to your heart. Reasonable people won’t ask you to compromise your values and will never cross your boundaries because your relationship is worth more than a cheap thrill to them.
6. Those Who Constantly Criticize You
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Constructive criticism is one thing, but constant, unwarranted criticism can damage your self-esteem. Additionally, feedback delivered without care or empathy is casual cruelty and should not be tolerated. If someone is always pointing out your flaws and regularly uses the phrase “I’m just being honest” after hurting your feelings, it might be time to reconsider that relationship.
Surround yourself with those who applaud your quirks and kindly critique your clicks. Stay with those who have no qualms holding you up and helping you grow.
7. People Who Don’t Apologize
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Although everyone makes errors, accepting responsibility for them is essential to a happy partnership. People who never apologize can make you feel undervalued and disrespected. When facing a loved one who won’t give you an apology when warranted, it’s important to practice self-compassion and reflect on whether this is a relationship you want to keep forgiving or if it is time to move on.
Those who can admit when they’re wrong and apologize genuinely show maturity and respect for your feelings. This is healthy communication and should be valued in relationships.
8. Takers Who Don’t Give
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Relationships should be a two-way street. If someone constantly takes from a relationship without giving anything in return, it can create an imbalance and resentment. This is particularly true if you are a giving person who is investing a lot of time and effort in the relationship.
Seek partnerships and relationships where support, time, and effort are fairly exchanged. This will encourage mutual respect and contentment.
9. People Who Blame You For Everything
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Have you ever been in a relationship where everything is your fault, and the other party is an angel? Manipulation can take the form of blaming. This type of behavior can wear down your confidence over time and even have you questioning yourself.
Don’t let “sorry” become your default when someone unnecessarily allocates blame to you. A true friend will acknowledge their own faults and foster a more respectful and balanced relationship.
10. Gossipers
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A little gossip may seem good for the coffee maker conversations, but gossip can be harmful. Those who gossip often betray confidence and create distrust. Building a strong friendship is difficult if you constantly worry about whether they speak about you the same way with others.
Choose friends who value privacy and speak positively about others. It stimulates a more dependable and encouraging atmosphere.
11. Perfectionists
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Although it’s noble to aim for greatness, perfectionism can be draining. Perfectionists can hold you to unattainable standards, leaving you feeling stressed out and unsatisfied in your relationship with them.
It’s important that the people love you just the way you are, accept that we’re all imperfectly perfect, and understand that a healthy connection with you is more important than an unachievable standard.
12. People Who Love Drama
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Imagine being with someone who constantly picks fights with their neighbors and freely insults others just for the drama. It’s draining and embarrassing for those around them. Individuals who are good at creating chaos frequently cause unneeded tension and conflict in their relationships.
Instead, keep the company of people who strive for unity and can peacefully and maturely settle disputes. A life free of drama is a happier life.